Tuesday Tips: Psychologist Amina Diab and Her Tips and Tricks About a Healthy Family Dynamic
Parents have a difficult job no doubt, and girls are often taught bravery rather than perfection, and boys are told not to cry because it goes against their manhood. Still, they’ll continue to teach, to talk, advise, and shout. It reaches a point where parents can doubt their capabilities as parents, and might need to resort to someone for help in parenting advice and skills. Dear parents, no need to worry, everything needs time as we all know, and we’ve got your back. We’ve collected some beneficial tips and tricks from one of the top child and parent psychologists, Amina Diab.
Amina Diab continues to shower us with some highly effective parenting hacks on how to deal and react with our children. Her tips range from situations of problematic communication, to school conflicts, and many more. We’ve collected some of her important tips as a potential guide in helping and supporting all the parents out there who are stressed, confused, and well, all over the place.
Children and disagreements
- They learn how to independently defend themselves. We know all kids get themselves into lots of conflicts, so this leads us to question ourselves as parents. Should we also get involved in the conflict, or should we stand back and observe how they deal with the issues on their own? According to Amina Diab, the parent should ask him/herself the following questions before intervening:
- Is she/he hurt?
- Is she/he defending themselves?
- Is she/he looking for your help or not? Always remember, if he/she aren’t hurt and are actually defending themselves then, LEAVE THEM.
- Developing confidence in their abilities comes as a result of them learning how to independently defend themselves.
- Teach them how to control their behavior and express themselves to reach solutions. In other words, allow them to practice it so they become better at it.
Often times we tend to lose control of ourselves, our emotions and feelings, even just for a short moment. Suddenly, parents can find themselves venting and ranting towards their kids, right? Now, instead of reacting to our child, let’s direct the conversation to where we want it to go. For instance, you as a parent just say “listen, I’m about to feel really angry right now,” and then ask your child to give you five minutes to rest, clarifying that you don’t want to regret anything. That simple, that short, and sweet all at once!
The ‘Mom I hate you’ phrase
It’s hurtful, undermining, and makes a parent doubtful when they hear such sentences from their children, right? You might question all of your parenting skills, and you might shed a few tears. No worries though, here are some tips from Amina Diab to save the day!
- Address the feeling
- Talk solutions