“With this ring I thee wed, in sickness and in health, in poverty or in wealth, ’til death do us part.”
Don’t get confused, love is human nature, reproduction is human nature, but not marriage. My mom always told me, “You have to marry someone who respects you and matches your personality, because the love will eventually go away, and if that mutuality and respect isn’t there, the marriage will fall apart.”
It wasn’t until I heard many women who were crazy about their partners confess that love does fade away that I became convinced that marriage goes against our nature as humans. Marriage is unnatural. And the sooner we admit it, the more secure matrimony will seem. The idea that marriage is natural has led to misconceptions and immeasurable damage in our lives.
Here are five reasons why marriage goes against human nature:
1. Nothing lasts forever, neither does monogamy
Life isn’t forever, pain doesn’t last forever, grief doesn’t last forever, so why would you think marriage lasts forever?
2. We get bored fast
You get bored of your hair, your clothes, your appearance, your parents (who, let me mention, gave birth to you and raised you), and you’re supposed to not get bored of your partner? Ridiculous.
3. No will one will tolerate your flaws forever
The only people who will unconditionally always overlook your flaws are the ones who brought you into this world, your parents. If your partner tolerates you because he/she loves you, when that love goes away, they will not tolerate you like before because their patience will run out.
4. We are all slaves to our animal nature
We are selfish creatures. We will always focus on what we are receiving, forgetting we have to give. Also, no matter how much you love and care for your partner, you will make mistakes and not all of them are fixable.
5.Commitment is our enemy
When couples are together but not married yet, they make every single effort to impress their lover because they comprehend that it’s necessary for their relationship to survive and succeed. But when they tie the knot, they stop making those efforts, thinking that since it is natural, it will all happen automatically.
They assume marriage is the last page of the story and that there is no further to go. The couple thinks love will just follow them into “happily ever after”. They do not view marriage as a battle, an every day challenge, where they must make consistent, conscious choices to do this thing called life together. That’s where commitment becomes a struggle.
I’m not arguing that marriage has no benefits, or that there aren’t successful marriages out there, or that getting married is wrong and will lead to failure. Nor am I arguing against religious beliefs of any type. I am just suggesting that realizing marriage is unnatural is essential to having a more successful partnership. Understanding this is what could make any marriage work better than anything else.
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