Emotional Abuse Is Real and Here’s Why You Cannot Surrender to It
Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, if not worse. You can heal broken bones, but you can’t heal a broken mind. Emotional abuse (also referred to as psychological violence, psychological abuse or mental abuse) is a form of abuse, characterized by a person subjecting, or exposing, another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.
I have come to realize at this stage in life that each one of us no matter what their background is has been subjected to emotional abuse. From bullying to name calling, yelling and screaming, feeling excluded or isolated or even humiliated by other human beings, we’ve all experienced it. But the worst kind of abuse is the manipulative kind, the kind where you are constantly nothing but stressed, tired, sick, and anxious.
The ugly truth is that this kind of abuse is one of the hardest things to ever recover from. Take for instance a man you fell deeply in love with, but after a few months you realize that with every fight or argument the name calling, the bullying, pointing out your flaws, degrading your self-esteem starts. You are worthless to him. Nothing you do or say impresses him. You work so hard on looking good, dressing your best, investing in new clothes, hair and makeup but he doesn’t see it anymore. He only sees you as a piece of old furniture. You make time for him, a lot of it. But he never has the time to see you. He only sees you when he pleased. I know he used to treat you like a queen, but you no longer serve a purpose to him except when he wants you to. This my friend is a very disturbed and emotionally broken man. He gets his power out of burying yours.
Everyone around you realizes this but you’rye in way too deep to get out of his mess. You have heard all types of comments and concerns about this relationship but a small part of you thinks that things can change or go back to how they used to be. You live hoping that one day he will listen.
So what do you do? Do you let him take over your mind, your body, your heart, your ego, and your self-esteem. Do you go on believing his lies? That you come first? That he misses you? That he needs to see you? Do you let him shatter your dreams and self-worth? You owe it to yourself to walk away. You cannot leave the key to your happiness in someone else’s hand. Take control and leave, just walk out.
You owe it to yourself to walk out of an abusive relationship where it no longer serves you well. I know you have tried talking, negotiating, complaining, you sound like a broken record, trust me. He will never listen to what you have to say. I have been there and I know how it feels. You will fall back into this trap a few times until you come to realize that you can no longer handle the abuse. If this man really does see your worth he will do anything in his power just to make you shine, happy, smile.
Know your worth and then give it to someone who deserves it. Don’t give in to any kind of abuse. Leave it in the past. The past is the past for a reason, if you go knocking on its doors you’re not going to like what you’ll get. Remember, old ways won’t open any new doors. Seal the old door shut and move on so you can find your happiness away from any kind of emotional abuse.
