10 Pieces of Advice from Elders About How to Recover from Heartbreak


They say “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. Most of us who’ve been through heartbreak know how cliche that sounds in the moment.

Especially in the first stages, advice is meaningless. You listen, but you don’t hear. You think what you want to think. You ruminate and you wallow. And that’s healthy. You need to mourn. But eventually, you have to pick yourself up, and with all of your strength and might, you have to push forward.

So, we wondered, who would be the best people to ask for advice to help heal all of the brokenhearted souls out there in the world? The obvious answer would be our elders, who have endured more heartbreaks and accumulated more wisdom over their years than any of us younger folk.

We asked around – mainly from the grandparents of people in the office – and did some Googling, and here’s what we came up with:


“Don’t be too quick to judge someone or the feelings they have for you.”


“To avoid heartbreak, never fall in love. But if you can’t help it, the only way to get over a heartbreak is by putting yourself out there and indulge in new activities and meet new people.”


“Always choose the person who loves you more than you love him.”


“This happened for a reason. Learn from it and figure out what kind of love you really want.”


“Pick yourself up and get back out there. You never know what surprise tomorrow will bring.”


“Always remember that there are more than six billion people in the world. Someone is out there for you. They won’t be the same, they will be even better.”


“Pour yourself a drink, put some lipstick on and pull yourself together.” – Elizabeth Taylor


“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won’t either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.” – Louise Erdrich


“Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.” – Khalil Gibran


1. The moment you realize that the person you cared for has nothing intellectually or spiritually to offer you, but a headache.

2. The moment you realize God had greater plans for you that don’t involve crying at night or sad Pinterest quotes.

3. The moment you stop comparing yourself to others because it undermines your worth, education and your parent’s wisdom.

4. The moment you live your dreams, not because of what it will prove or get you, but because that is all you want to do. People’s opinions don’t matter.

5. The moment you realize that no one is your enemy, except yourself.

6. The moment you realize that you can have everything you want in life. However, it takes timing, the right heart, the right actions, the right passion and a willingness to risk it all. If it is not yours, it is because you really didn’t want it, need it or God prevented it.

7. The moment you realize the ghost of your ancestors stood between you and the person you loved. They really don’t want you mucking up the family line with someone that acts anything less than honorable.

8. The moment you realize that happiness was never about getting a person. They are only a helpmate towards achieving your life mission.

9. The moment you believe that love is not about losing or winning. It is just a few moments in time, followed by an eternity of situations to grow from.

10. The moment you realize that you were always the right person. Only ignorant people walk away from greatness.” – Shannon Alder



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