Why We Can’t Resist Broken Alpha Males

I’ve always said I don’t have a type, since everyone in my dating history has been starkly different from the other, each with their own distinct character, style and sense of humor – until one of our writers used a phrase that summed up my entire romantic life, from schoolyard crush to ex-husband, in three words: “broken alpha male”.

No joke: It was an earth-shattering realization, a lightbulb moment that electrified my core and triggered a memory-lane trip of the faces of lovers past flashing before my very eyes.

Finally, after all these years, after life-altering love and heartbreak, I had clarity about the type of persona I’m attracted to, moth to flame, Lykke Li to rivers.

 

 

1. There’s something sexy about the sadness in their eyes

 

A broken alpha male character is typically haunted by a challenging past. You’ll have to break down some walls before he even begins to openly talk about it, but you can feel the repressed explosive energy just by looking into his eyes.

 

 

2. Their mood swings keep us engaged

 

It’s never all good and it’s never all bad with a broken alpha male, but there are intense periods of both that keep you coming back for more.

 

 

3. We think we can help them

 

Until you realize that the only person who can help him is himself.

 

 

4. We think we can change them

 

You can blame Disney for this lie.

 

 

5. We’re tempted by the challenge

 

Sometimes the challenge is in the chase and sometimes it’s in the long game. Sometimes it’s both and that’s when you know you’re a masochist.

 

 

6. We can relate to them on a deeper level

 

Every layer you peel back reveals another fascinating aspect of his character that you never expected to find. And the more you discover, the more addicted you get.

 

 

7. We’re drawn to their edginess

 

Broken alpha males can be insensitive, cold, aloof – which is why they may be mistakenly lumped into the “asshole” category.

 

 

8. We know they’re good people deep down inside

 

But you keep digging because you know that, under that tough exterior, there’s an ocean of tenderness and compassion.

 

 

9. Their unpredictability keeps us on our toes

 

The deeper you get, the more unpredictable their behavior gets. You’re in territory either uncharted or long forgotten. Tread gently.

 

 

10. Easy come…

 

…but, often, easy go…

 

 

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