I’ve been haunted by this idea since forever, what is the definition of success?! I’m not referring to the definition in the dictionary; I’m referring to the practical and dynamic definition. In some cases, success is quantifiable. In other cases, people just refer to past experiences and adhere to them, giving no room for young people to do things their way.
Speaking of doing things your way, I’d like you to ask yourself a question, what would you feel if almost everybody you know mocks your dreams or at least demotivate you in a way or another by saying “It’s impossible”?
How many times did you think of doing something your own way and once you share the idea you get showered by mockery?!
The following facts won’t make it easier for you but those are true stories, this is not false hope:
- In 1974, Margaret Thatcher was quoted saying “‘there will not be a woman prime minister in my lifetime’. In 1979 Margaret Thatcher became the first woman prime minister in England
- In 1895, Albert Einstein’s teacher told his father that “It doesn’t matter what he does, he will never amount to anything.”
- In 1962, Decca Records Opted not to sign a deal with the Beatles claiming that the guitar music is about to vanish
- Thomas Edison was Kicked out of School for two reasons, because his teachers called him dumb and he asked way too many questions.
- As a young man, Walt Disney was fired from the Kansas City Star Newspaper because his boss thought he lacked creativity.
The aforementioned facts are a living proof that most of the people you ask advice from have that kind of knowledge limited to past experiences only. Consequently, they will give you advices that aim solely for one thing only, preventing you from failure. This in itself is what hinders our success the most. Fear of failure is success’s biggest enemy.
Moreover, I’m not saying you shouldn’t take advices from people who care about you but sometimes you need to go against the flow. If you believe you have a dream and you’re willing to dedicate your life to fulfill that dream then give it a shot. Who knows, with some good luck your success could be dwelling in the horizon while you’re approaching it in steady steps.
In conclusion, I firmly believe that every person should define their own success without letting other people define it for them. Notwithstanding how awkward your definition of success would be within our society and cultural context, bear in mind that our society is mostly narrow minded. Deal with the society standards as challenges and constraints.
This might be hard to be implemented in reality but after all great success is molded by great challenges.