People have well defined the difference between being alone and being lonely, at least being alone is a choice and being lonely is a trap that you can’t get out of. In the following lines I will try to wrap my head around people who prefer being alone “loners” and see whether they are happier than lonely people or not.
Firstly, loners are much less talkative than ordinary people, which make me wonder how a loner handles his/her problems, especially if it’s a kind of problem that needs advice from a friend or a consultation from an older relative. In addition to that, sometimes you need to talk to someone to figure out what’s wrong with you in the first place. You know when you start saying you’re not happy without any reason and then half the way through the talk you discover exactly what’s bothering you.
Moreover, when you start talking to a friend about being sad without knowing the reason is just like an aimless journey. However, in the middle of that journey you will figure out the whole point behind it when you know what the reasons of your sadness were. Think about it as a therapy, it’s just talking for the sake o shaking off the burden in your shoulders.
It’s kind of understandable and well justified when people tend to be alone and isolate themselves and their problems instead of sharing them with friends. It’s a matter of trust; revealing your sadness, insecurities and weaknesses to people who don’t deserve this privilege is as embarrassing as getting naked in front of them (maybe it’s more embarrassing).
In my opinion, it’s acceptable to be weak with someone you trust in order to be stronger against the world. People are social animals, don’t choose to be alone. Surround yourself with people you trust, surround yourself with the right people, and remember, being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing ever.