I am pretty sure many girls, mainly my friends, will totally hate me for saying this. But it is true, many girls are doing their best to get the perfect hubby or let me rephrase are “hunting down” their future hubby because if you reached over 25 years of age without a hubby then you are such a spinster.
Well, I knew that many people think that way and probably it's a traditional thing. For instance, right after graduation people keep asking “Oh, didn’t you graduate college, why aren’t you married still“ and the whole gossiping starts. Educated girls are haunted by idea of ending up not married, and how society will look at them, it is so depressing.
I am talking about my colleagues at college, girls who are still teenagers, and didn’t even reach their 20s, and all what they can think of is “the perfect guy” and of course there is an amazing list which I would love to share.
- Major: Engineering or Medicine
- Car: something expensive
- Looks: Not so ugly.
I think this list is absurd, what about chemistry? Personality? And common interest? Can’t you fall in love with a guy who is majoring economics, does that make him any less? Won’t he be the same guy you like, won’t he fill the image of the “Perfect Husband”.
“Why you should find a hubby at freshman year” - people say: -
- You are still young, you start looking at the age of 18 probably find a guy when you reach 21
- You have the senior classes, next year there will be new freshman students who are younger than you and the seniors will graduate.
In case you remember the comedian Ramadan series ”3awza agwaz” which features a group of 30 something women who are under social pressure and in urge of finding the right guy. This is pretty much what I am talking about, but teenagers in this case.
Yes, I swear, some people still think that way, some girls don’t even care about their academic career, they may get straight A’s because this is a good qualification in finding the hubby. Of course, this is also related to the idea of loving whatever their ”crush” is into. For instance, if he loves football, they are crazy about it, if he loves video games, then again they love it. And so on. Identity? Oh yeah right, it will show up after marriage.
Don’t get me wrong, I do respect people who get married at a young age, and I do respect the whole marriage concept, and I would totally understand and respect it even if a girl wants to drop out of college and get married because she WANTS to, not because she is afraid of some sort of a social stigma.
I hate to see girls who are obsessed with this. I mean, it's the 21st century right? Women do other things besides marriage; there is a career and a whole life that they can lead on their own. Marriage is important, but it's not what our whole life relies on. And, college isn’t about literally stalking the right guy, it is about building an academic career, getting the most out of it, learning more and even signing up for extra classes in order to become the best version of yourself. What if the right guy never showed up? Life still goes on. And, honestly, I don’t think any of those methods to “hunt down” your future hubby are even working.
This sounds a bit weird but I do believe in so called destiny and fate. So, pretty much what I am trying to say is-because I am sure some you got lost in translation-Enjoy college life and the whole experience, don’t limit yourself with the idea of “Mrs. Perfect”.
I love weddings because you dress up and have fun with your family and friends not because it is another chance to track down a new a hubby. I am not a mad teenager who is asking people to be anti-marriage, I am asking them to enjoy their teenage years because they are awesome and they are the chance to be stupid and learn from your mistakes. Being a teenager is fun, and when it comes to worrying about ending up as a spinster, let me tell you this, you have many years to worry about that.